STEP TWO: Locate your on-deck circle. When you walk into the party, the first thing you should do is scan the surroundings for somewhere you can retreat to if it gets too overwhelming. This could be a balcony, a bedroom, a hallway, or just the great outdoors.
STEP THREE: Give yourself a task. If you’re worried about not knowing what to do at a party, help the host with whatever needs to be done. Pick up cups, help pass out food, etc. Not only will it give you a set agenda for the night, but you’ll also be able to socialize with a wide variety of people without being tied down to one long conversation filled with small talk.
STEP FOUR: When in doubt, find the other introverts. Look for small clusters of people and attach yourself to them. Odds are you’ll have more in common to talk about, and the manner of conversation will be more your speed.
STEP FIVE: Know when to give yourself a break. If you’re too overwhelmed or uncomfortable, use that out you saved for yourself. It’s completely OK to leave the situation if it’s not doing anything for you. Also plan some alone time the next day to recover.
What is an Introvert?
Why? Research shows that, from a young age, introverts react to things in a very different way than extroverts do.
1989 Harvard Study on Introverts
About 20 percent of the infants reacted strongly to these triggers—they screamed, cried, thrashed their arms and legs. The rest stayed mostly quiet. When Kagan interviewed the subjects years later, he found that most of the children who reacted strongly to the external stimuli had turned out to be introverted.
January 2012 TIME Magazine Article on Introverts
On the other hand, extroverts feed off these types of situations and grow unhappy without them.
- Plan your escape.
- Locate your on-deck circle.
- Give yourself a task.
- When in doubt, find other introverts.
- Know when to give yourself a break.
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